Alli, Aude And Beatrice Set Intentions For 2018

It seems “resolution” has become somewhat of a dirty word. Perhaps it’s too much of a reminder of all the hopes, dreams and goals (exercise more, eat cleaner, read more, complain less, live more, envy less, travel more and work less maniacally) which we have failed or forgotten to fulfil as the year gets old. Again. Of tapered enthusiasm. Of jaded optimism. Of time squandered…

Since the beginning of this month, I have been asking friends if they still believe in making resolutions. Responses range from a resigned shaking of the head and eye-rolling to, imply, a sigh. That got me thinking, that maybe, instead of making resolutions, which really just feels

feels like you’re making yet another to-do list — the mother of to-do lists, which is bound to become the mother of disappointments — we ought to change the way we perceive of goal-setting for the new year. In yoga and in my meditation sessions, I always begin by setting intentions. Unlike resolutions, you don’t have to write it out and make a KPI of it. It’s entirely between you and you. It’s not about the outside stuff, you know — like results, achievements, etc — or it’d be called out-tentions, wouldn’t it? But rather, it’s what comes from deep within: Your purpose, your why, your motivations, that thing you feel in your gut. You dig deep, you soul-search, be seriously honest with yourself, and make a decision about how you’d like to live

for the next 12 months, what your state of mind shall be, and what kind of person you envision you’d be by next December. When you get your intentions right, your actions (and consequently your reality) will align. That’s what I’d like to think, anyway.

Put like that, the responses I received became much more positive. Which is great. So I thought I’d encourage you to do the same by asking three of the most introspective people I know to allow me to share their 2018 intentions with you. But not before looking back on 2017 to conclude the year with gratitude.

Happy New Year! x

ALLI SIM

MMERCI ENCORE

You have the right to make mistakes.

What has been the highlight of 2017 for you?
AS: So many wonderful things happened this year. I got married to the love of my life, twice! For our reception in Bali, our best friends recited poems and blessings, in lieu of vows.

What are three things you’re most grateful for this year?
AS: Travel: I travelled to Marrakech with my best mate, Norman. We got lost in the souks, stayed at a magical riad called Dar Seven and then the Royal Mansour, and were just so inspired by the colour and flavours of the place.

Connections: They say a big part of success is just showing up, but that also lends itself to relationships and friendships. You may not always have the right things to say to a friend, but just showing up and being there for them — birthdays, baby showers, weddings, break-ups, the random Monday-night dinner — is what friendship is all about. It doesn’t matter how busy you are or what kind of a week you’re having: Just. Show. Up. That includes making time to show up for yourself too — make promises to your self to go get fit, eat better and sticking to it.

Clients: I got to meet so many amazing clients IRL at the Boutiques Fairs in March and November — they inspire me so much with their honesty, enthusiasm and encouragement.

What are your top five goals or intentions for 2018?
AS: 1. I’m a sybarite by nature. You’re more likely to find me at the spa or a crystal store talking about healing than at a gym. However, I decided to reframe fitness as an unbreakable date with myself. I have a meeting that’s 30 minutes long, and it happens to be with myself, on a treadmill.

2. Create more!

3. Love more!

4. Stop needless consumption. “Buy less, buy better” has been my

mantra for literally a decade now, but now more than ever, I’m trying to say no to bottled water, extra plastic bags, extra everything that really is terrible for the environment.

5. Stay brave and kind. To be inclusive, to not let people or situations scare me, and to stop other people’s judgement or projections of me be my reality. Because they’re not. 🙂

In what ways would you like to be a better version of you in the new year?
AS: There’s this great quote by Kavita N Ramdas that goes: “We need women who are so strong they can be gentle, so educated they can be humble, so fierce they can be be compassionate, so passionate they can be rational, and so disciplined they can be free.”

It’s something that I’ve been trying to practice and be mindful of for the past several years or so now: To go high, choose better, and respond to every situation that could have potentially hurt me with grace. Grace upon grace.

What is your mantra for 2018?
AS: You have the right to make mistakes.

This September, I was sitting in an interview in Tokyo between an amazing (and very iconic) perfumer and a journalist. She was told those words when she first started creating fragrances for a huge fashion/luxury house, and the minute she said that, it was like whatever spell that had been cast on me was broken. It’s probably the most empowering thing to me: Knowing that I don’t have to be perfect, that my best is good enough, and to treat myself with kindness. So it’s about finding a balance and unlearning the need for perfection, and giving grace to yourself and others.

One other mantra I’ve been telling myself lately — and it’s on a post-it on my wall: “Work from balance. Not fear. Stay in the present — not in the future.” This is super, super important so if I could have two, that’d be it!

Stay brave and kind. To be inclusive, to not let people or situations scare me, and to stop other people’s judgement or projections of me be my reality. Because they’re not.

AUDE GIRAUD

ASK A FRENCH

 

LEARN TO SAY ‘NO’. (It’s always easier to say yes, but sometimes you regret it.)

 

What has been the highlight of 2017 for you?
AG: The one-year anniversary of askafrenchflowers.com, In France, when you’re married for a year, it’s called “les noces de cotton” — the “cotton anniversary”. And if there were a flower to represent this year, it would definitely be the cotton flower — which embodies the ability, or desire, to be strong and tender simultaneously.

What three things are you most grateful for this year?
AG: Being alive, having found a true passion, and that I have incredible friends I can rely on.

What are your top five goals or intentions for 2018?
AG: Learn to say “no”. (It’s always easier to say yes, but sometimes you regret it.) Say “yes” to the right things because time is so precious — it’s the most valuable thing you have (with your loved ones). Be kind to myself (self-esteem does is not built overnight, it’s not easy, don’t let anything ruin it.). And to others. I also want to keep travelling (if not physically, then in my head.) Dream big — with a big heart.

How will you be a better version of you in the new year?
AG: I need to be more organised, less overwhelmed. Again, it means saying “yes” to the right things, and “no” to the wrong ones.

What’s your mantra for 2018?
AG: Only care about those who care.

BEATRICE TAN

KLARRA

What has been the highlight of 2017 for you?
BT: Getting engaged!

What are you most grateful for this year?
BT: I’m grateful to have found a good team at work. For being healthy, alive and kicking. To be surrounded by family, loved ones. And for new meaningful friendships fostered.

What are your top five goals or intentions for the new year?
BT: Spend more time with my family and loved ones. To keep a healthy lifestyle: That means work-life balance, exercising regularly, eating

healthy (70% of the time), sleeping well and on time. I intend to pick up a new skill (a language or an art, I’m still contemplating). Read more: At least two books a month. And yes, plan my wedding.

How can you be a better version of you in 2018?
BT: Challenge my own limits, be fearless but kind, and just continue to work towards being me, but better 🙂

And your mantra for the year ahead?
BT: Nothing is impossible. Always be positive and stay healthy.

  

BE FEARLESS BUT KIND.

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SHOOT LOCATIONS  // ASK A FRENCH ATELIER (AUDE), ANDAZ SINGAPORE (ALLI), LING WU LE SALON (BEATRICE)
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